I don't know who told me as I was growing up that my partner needs to be "everything" in my life. I just know that I used to have this misconception that my partner needed to be my strength, my best friend, my love, my heart...etc. Now, I know this sounds romantic, to say to someone, "you are my everything," but this is a dangerous concept. The secret truth to relationships #2 is that your partner does not need to be everything to you... you are everything to yourself. Your partner may offer all of those things to you, which is wonderful, but my point is that we do not need to look outside of ourselves for all of those things . There may be days or moments in time when your partner is unable to be all of those things to you, because he/she is busy being "everything" to himself. If you don't understand the secret truth to relationships #2 then during those days or moments in time you will feel lost. If you knew that you are already your strength, your best friend, the love of your love, your heart... then you would be able to be there, to truly love your partner, when your partner has nothing to give and just needs support and patience. The old saying still holds true... the more you love yourself, the more you are able to love someone else. You are your everything! Your partner can add beauty to your life, but only you are at the core of your happiness and completeness. If you can accept the secret truth to relationships #2, you will not only feel a more whole love, but your partner will feel it to. Like with the secret truth to relationships #1 (You can only control yourself), the more you work on yourself, the richer your relationship becomes.
So, my intention for the day is to be "everything" to myself. This does not mean that I need to do everything for myself, and that I will try to be superwoman and not accept help. You can be "everything" to yourself and allow other people to help you be more. Just because you can be "everything," don't forget that other people bring beauty, knowledge, more love, and friendship to your life. Anyway, today is my day to practice being my best friend, my strength, my greatest love, and my heart! I will love myself, listen attentively to what I need, take care of myself, and support my dreams... all day long!
Gratitude Review:
1. Even though I can be "everything" to myself, I want to thank my boyfriend for taking the strong foundation I've created for myself and decorating it with extra love, support, and beauty. He adds so much to my life and I am so grateful to be able to share myself with him.
2. I am so very appreciative for having a vision for what I want for my future. Yesterday I wrote about my creative vision, and I set my intention to move along the path toward realizing that vision. Well, yesterday I got an e-mail from my friend, Vanessa, that's opening the personal development school in San Diego and she wanted me to attend a teacher's introduction tonight. This is definitely a step towards my vision. Watching and helping her create her Center for Higher Learning, as well as teaching at the center, will be invaluable when I am creating my creativity center. So, I am thankful for having a vision to move towards.
3. I am grateful for down comforters. It was so cold in my apartment last night that I had to sleep with two down comforters. I know that all of you outside of San Diego, especially my peeps from NY, are thinking that it couldn't possibly be that cold in SD. Well, it is freezing INSIDE. That's because a lot of apartments in San Diego, because it is warm enough 85% of the time, are made with ZERO insulation. I feel like I am sleeping outside. Probably because the windows that bring in so much natural light, the windows that sold me on the apartment, are so drafty (there is like a quarter of an inch of space open to the outside air!) Anyway, I am really not complaining... I am simply explaining why I am so grateful for my 2 down comforters!
Daily Musings:
One way to give to yourself to day is to make sure that your self-talk is affirming all your positive qualities, capabilities, and potential.
If you catch yourself mentally or verbally putting yourself down in any way, switch that statement to a positive one.
Try an affirmation for yourself:
An affirmation for yourself is a positive declaration of who you are or a statement of your goals as if they are already complete. An affirmation should be specific, like “I am a talented young woman who is excellent at photography” or "I am delighted with my new career as a professional photographer". Affirmations can also be beliefs you are adopting. For example, "Everything happens for a reason". Write out your affirmation. Hang it on your mirror, by your computer, or in your car. Start believing so you can start achieving!
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